Why We should Compensate Surrogate Mothers
Many individuals and couples have used a surrogate to build their family. Some say they do it to help others and not for the money. Others say that they do it because they know close ones who are in similar situations as the intended parents. This raises the question: Should surrogates get paid for being a gestational carrier for others?
In the United States of America, some states have completely banned surrogacy. Others do permit surrogacy agreements, but may only allow minimal payment to cover the medical and incidental expenses. Very few states have been open to providing complete compensation to the surrogate for her time and efforts.
This topic of compensating surrogates financially has been controversial for quite some time. Some people argue the problem is surrogacy is not viewed as work. Many feel that this point of view is demeaning. Gestating a child in its true sense, is a selfless act and an act of love. It does take a certain emotional and physical toll on the surrogate’s life as pregnancy affects her daily activities. We believe that they should get paid for their tireless efforts and sacrifice to bring a new life into this world for someone else.
Some gestational carriers believe that money itself taints the ‘gift’ they bring to a childless couple. The payments don’t necessarily destroy altruism. Some surrogates could choose to offer their services voluntarily without pay. This is called compassionate surrogacy.
Many tend to think of altruism as a system that is priceless and preferred to commercialization. It is not. When a gestational carrier is a stranger volunteering her services, her body, and her time, then it should be under a carefully defined service-for-hire contract.
Ambiguity will play a pivotal role if the carrier refuses to relinquish the baby after birth. This may be further exacerbated, if the surrogate is a close family member. The uncompensated nature of the surrogacy process will make it harder for Intended Parents to make any demands about the surrogate’s conduct. In such cases, commercialized surrogacy may assist in removing the emotional bearings during the surrogacy process.
Another argument against surrogacy compensation is that it exploits women in many ways, particularly poor women. Women who don’t have marketable skills or maybe fewer choices are tricked into providing their bodies to others for surrogacy.
The very first thing to know is that not all the surrogates are economically downtrodden. It would be foolish to assume this without any prior research. However, at times, race issues can admittedly become a factor in countries like India, where young women are housed and paid to become a gestational carrier. Since the exploitation argument is paternalistic in nature, it often ignores the voices of the surrogates themselves. Many view this opportunity to obtain work a valuable one.
Many women use their compensation to purchase a home or send their children to school. Opportunities like these would have been impossible if they had not been paid for their efforts. Unfortunately, these insignificant arguments have never improved women’s lives. Unless the arguments are followed by real efforts to give women more education or opportunities that can make a positive difference, these trivial arguments leave women in the same deplorable condition.
Rewarding surrogates for all their efforts and problems they had to endure just to give the Intended Parents a baby is praiseworthy. Parents will usually have to set a budget for their surrogacy process which involves payment for the gestational carrier as well. Working with a surrogacy agency in your state is advised. They will often provide a lawyer who will help draw up a contract and determine what will be appropriate compensation for the surrogate mother.
In choosing to become a surrogate, you will be giving your efforts and time to help another family and bring their baby into this world. The Intended Parents henceforth will cover all your expenses throughout the surrogacy process. Everything from screening to financial procedures including your legal expenses will be covered by them. Also, you’ll receive monthly payments to cover your pregnancy related costs.
Like base compensation, this amount will also be decided during the early stages of the surrogacy process and will be mentioned in your legal surrogacy contract. The same is the case with altruistic surrogacy, even in this type of surrogacy the expenses will be covered by the Intended Parents.
Surrogates who choose to go through an agency will be paid a pre-set amount. If you choose to go the independent route, the amount must be agreed upon between you and the Intended Parents. Your own experience will also play a role in compensation. Typically, agencies will pay a surrogate more based on the number of journeys she has completed.
A surrogate mother’s compensation amount varies based on the situation. It is crucial that you meet with a professional surrogacy lawyer to better understand exactly how you will be compensated. Reproductive Sciences Medical Center, one of the top surrogacy agencies in California, will provide you with a lawyer to guide you through the process.
The money a surrogate mother makes can be life changing. Not only for them, but for their family as well. Hence, paying a woman for this is the right and noble thing to do.
To discuss the benefits of being a surrogate mother, you can visit us at www.fertile.com or call (858) 342-3327. You can learn more about becoming a surrogate at www.fertile.com/become-a-surrogate.