The journey to becoming parents for a gay male couple can be long and emotionally draining. Here are six helpful tips for men using an egg donor. In most cases, a surrogate will be used. Along with selecting a surrogate, you will need to select an egg donor as well. Chances are, you might feel a little overwhelmed and might even be a little scared. You may also have a lot of questions, which is completely normal. Choosing an egg donor is a huge decision! So before embarking on your journey, take some time to process everything with these tips for using an egg donor.
Egg Donation plays an important role in the surrogacy process, especially for gay men building a family. Same-sex male couples have the option of asking a family member or a close friend to donate eggs for them. They can also work with an anonymous egg donor whom they filter out from a database of an agency. Those couples or individuals who choose to work with an agency may be concerned about the process, how it works, or how you will be able to choose the right egg donor for growing your family.
At Reproductive Sciences Medical Center, we have worked with many LGBT couples seeking an egg donor to grow their family. We understand that this whole process may seem daunting, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be. Here are some important tips for all gay parents who are embarking on their family-building journey through egg donation.
Pause and Breathe
It’s perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed. This is a very big decision, so take a deep breath. You should give yourself some time to wrap your head around the whole process. The egg donor plays a very important role, but also consider what you will want in a surrogate, choosing the right clinic, and how much money it will all cost.
One of the great things about building a family in America as a gay couple is that we have progressive laws that allow for it. Society is now accepting of kids with same-sex parents. We are also now able to create an embryo that could be implanted in a surrogate. The only downside is that there are a lot of moving parts and expenses involved. It may take a little time to financially prepare yourself.
At such times, it’s important to know that it is completely normal to feel overwhelmed or wonder what to do next. Make sure that you and your partner are on the same page, figure out your exact path, and work out exactly what’s needed. It all takes some time, so don’t rush anything.
Choose a clinic
If you decide not to use someone that you know personally to be an egg donor, it’s important to find the right clinic. Always remember to select a clinic where you feel respected and are cared for. Keep an eye out for physicians who have your best interests in mind. Look for a doctor who is kind, and compassionate and above all, be willing to partner with you during your journey. You can always reach out to Reproductive Sciences Medical Center if you have any questions.
At our clinic, we also recommend men on going through sperm tests and screening to learn if there are potential fertility issues at play.
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Think about what’s important to you
Most Intended Parents look for specific characteristics that match their own. It’s a good idea to sit down and prioritize those qualities. It’s also important to figure out what traits you can be flexible on, as it’s highly unlikely to find someone who has the exact traits you’re looking for. This can become the most overwhelming part of selecting an egg donor. The bottom line is – do your homework, ask questions, and always trust your gut when you feel like something doesn’t sit well. Don’t believe that paying a higher fee to an agency or donor will get you a premium quality donor egg, that’s not how it works.
Always remember to select a few possible candidates when it comes to egg donors. It’s possible that your first candidate will have a failed cycle or your preferred egg donor is not a suitable candidate. In such events, you’ll have few options ready to choose from.
If you are Gay, Same-sex Couple or a Single Father willing to build your family through donor eggs, RSMC fertility center is here to help you at every step of your journey. Contact us at 858-436-7186 to schedule a consultation. You can also visit our website at https://fertile.com/ to learn more about all the available fertility treatment options.
