Finding the Right Donor
This story originally appeared on the FitPregnancy.com website.
With donor-egg IVF, you have two options: Finding a donor egg you know or selecting an anonymous donor through an agency. Most friends assumed we’d prefer a familiar donor. Three even offered me their own eggs. (I thanked them profusely before explaining that they were, oh, about 15 years too old.) Several people asked whether I’d considered my younger sister as a donor. But the very idea of mating my sister’s eggs with Paul’s sperm would complicate our family dynamics in ways I didn’t even want to imagine. “At least you’d know what you were getting,” one friend said.
Comments like that drove me nuts. What DNA merger isn’t one big roll of the dice? In some respects, though, I understood the sentiment. After all, we did find it comforting to have even partial genetic input and to know that our baby would be exposed to all the right nutrients in utero. Still, we