When You Become a Surrogate Mother, You Can Help a Couple Build the Family They Long For
In the United States today roughly 12% of the reproductive age population is suffering from infertility. That’s a lot of people who can’t do what comes easily for so many people, maybe even you. If you’re an empathetic, happy mom who can’t imagine life without her children, you probably feel the hurt that these people are carrying in them, especially the ones you know personally. And let’s face it, with that number of people suffering from infertility you know some of them. Even if they aren’t talking about it. Not everyone suffers from the same fertility problems. Some people’s fertility problems can be remediated with fertility drugs, IUI, IVF, egg and embryo donation or some combination that allows the intended mother to carry the child. If all those interventions fail, you can help these people when you become a surrogate mother.
A lot of people don’t like to talk about their fertility problems because it seems so personal and painful. Infertility also seems like their problem alone, they don’t realize there are other people in their lives that are sharing the same pain. If you do know someone who has reached the end of the infertility journey without success their pain is palpable, especially when they’re around your children. While surrogacy can’t take away the pain of not being able to carry their own child, it can provide the most wonderful reward in the world, a child of their own.
The most popular form of surrogacy today is gestational surrogacy, where the surrogate carries an embryo created by the intended parents or the intended father and a donor egg (if the intended mother can’t produce a viable egg). This means the surrogate has no genetic relation to the child she’s carrying, she’s basically babysitting within her body for 9 months then turning the baby over to its ecstatic parents. This is what separates gestational surrogacy from traditional surrogacy, with traditional surrogacy the embryo is created using the surrogate’s egg and the intended father’s sperm. You have the super power to make someone’s dream of family come true when you become a surrogate for them and carry their child.
Have you ever asked yourself “how can I become a surrogate mother?” Here’s a list of typical requirements to become a surrogate mother. If you meet the requirements on this list, there’s a good chance you will qualify to become a surrogate:
- Be age 21-39;
- Have at least 1 child;
- Be a non-smoker, non-drug-user with healthy lifestyle and weight;
- Have no major pregnancy complications;
- Have a BMI under 34;
- Have no felony convictions;
- Be a resident of a surrogacy friendly state, CA, CO, OR, IL, TX or NV;
- Be a US citizen or legal resident; and
- If you have a spouse or partner, they are in agreement with your decision to become a surrogate.
If you fit the requirements above, and have easy pregnancies that you enjoyed, you can give the greatest gift one person can give to another one, the gift of family. Just think about how happy you can make a needy family when you become a surrogate mother for them. By carrying their child for them, you can help create their family and help your family out financially at the same time. First time surrogates working through an agency can make around $40,000 plus benefits for one pregnancy, experienced surrogates can command higher compensation. Just think for a minute about what an extra $40,000 would do for your family, you could pay off your bills or buy a new vehicle or put a down payment on a house or stay home with your children while they’re young. When you become a surrogate mother, you are helping two families at once, your family and the family you are helping another couple create. What could be better than helping someone to achieve their goal of a family of their own.
The people a surrogate would be helping are the kind of people that will make wonderful parents, they’ve spent a lot of time and money on failed fertility treatment because they want a family so badly. They will be wonderful, loving, attentive (OK, maybe helicopter) parents to the child they spent so much time and energy to bring into the world. You can be part of that miracle when you become a surrogate mother. One of the most noble and compassionate things a woman who has easy and uncomplicated pregnancies can do is to become a surrogate mother for a needy couple. So, welcome to the sisterhood of surrogacy.